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National Prematurity Awareness Day

Nov. 12, 2008 No Comments Posted under: Uncategorized

Each day in the U.S. more than 1,400 babies will be born prematurely. November is National Prematurity Awareness Month and November 12 is National Prematurity Awareness day. Celebrate the day by signing the March of Dimes Petition for Preemies here and visiting the March of Dimes website to learn more about premature birth.

Obviously this is a day that is near and dear to our hearts.   Littlest has done amazingly well and at 10-1/2 months is healthy and happy.   She was born 14 weeks early at 1 pound 1 oz, about 13 inches long, spent 104 days in the NICU and came home April 7, 2008.  You’ve come a long way Baby!

 January 2008

 October 2008


How Preemie Moms are Chosen ~
    By Erma Bombeck

Did you ever wonder how the mothers of premature babies are chosen?

Somehow, I visualize God hovering Earth, selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger.

“Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron Saint…give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity.”

Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles. “Give her a preemie.”

The angel is curious. “Why this one God? She’s so happy.”
“Exactly,” smiles God. “Could I give a premature baby a mother who knows no laughter? That would be cruel.”

“But does she have the patience?” asks the angel.

“I don’t want her to have too much patience, or she’ll drown in a sea of self-pity and despair.
Once the shock and resentment wear off, she’ll handle it. 

I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother.
You see, the child I am going to give her has a world of it’s own. She has to make it live in her world, and that’s not going to be easy.”

God smiles. “This one is perfect. She has just the right amount of selfishness. “
The angel gasps, “Selfishness! Is that a virtue?”

God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t know it yet, but she is to be envied.

She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says “momma” for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it.

I will permit her to see cleary the things that I see - ignorance, cruelty, prejudice - and allow her to rise above them.

She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.”

“But what about her Patron Saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in the air. God smiles.
“A mirror will suffice.”

Apologies

Oct. 12, 2008 No Comments Posted under: Uncategorized

If you were in Costco Friday and you saw a family with two little girls, a dad, and a crazy, overly chatty mom, I’m sorry.   I don’t know what my problem was, but I seemed to find it necessary to tell everyone who dared look at me that Littlest was a preemie and weighed 1 pound 1 ounce when she was born.   I barely made it through the doors and the poor lady folding the infant clothes and trying to help me find the two sizes of Christmas outfits got the story.    Another random individual made the mistake of smiling and saying she was cute and I blurted  out “she was a preemie.”  Cuckooo!  Finally to the mom who heard us saying Littlest name and mentioned that her baby had the same name.  I promise I wasn’t stalking you to force you to hear our whole story.  We just happened to be in the same areas - I swear it was an accident.  I did finally remember to ask about your little one.  

I really am sorry.  Don’t run when you see us coming, it won’t happen again….I hope.